What Can I Do If I'm Abusive to My GLBT Partner

AM I ABUSIVE TOWARDS MY PARTNER?

1. Do you physically hurt your partner in any way, including hitting, punching, pulling hair, biting, etc.?
2. Do you say things to your partner to scare him/her?
3. Do you try to control your partner’s activities, like seeing his/her family or friends?
4. Have your threatened your partner with hurting yourself, a beloved pet or him/her if s/he ever leaves you?
5. Do you ever put your partner down or try to make him/her feel bad about his/herself?
6. Have you ever forced your partner to do something sexually s/he did not want to do or have sex when s/he did not want to?
7. Do you take control of your partner’s money and make him/her account for everything s/he spends?
8. Have you threatened to “out” him/her to family, or colleagues to get him/her to stay with you or to do something for you?

If you answered “yes” to any one of these questions, you may be an abusive partner.

(Updated February 2013)